Know the Signs Perinatal Depression and Anxiety in New Fathers

A Tampa father gently holding his sleeping baby, representing paternal mental health awareness and support by Sleeping Little Angels Doula.”

Becoming a father is a big change in your life that comes with a lot of joy, responsibility, and, for many, unanticipated emotional problems. It’s important to remember that fathers can also have serious mental health problems during the perinatal period (from pregnancy to the first year after giving birth).

While maternal mental health has rightly gotten a lot of attention recently (it’s about time!), it’s also important to remember that fathers can have serious mental health problems during the postpartum period. It is important for everyone in the family, not just dads, to understand and deal with these problems.

The Hidden Battle: Anxiety and Depression in Fathers During the Perinatal Period

Recent studies show that fathers are more likely to have mental health problems during the perinatal period:

  • Perinatal Depression: About 8% to 13% of dads have perinatal depression, with the highest prevalence occurring between three and six months after the baby is born. Notably, the father’s risk goes up a lot if the mother is likewise depressed; some studies show rates as high as 50% in these instances.
  • Anxiety throughout pregnancy: Anxiety problems are also frequent, affecting up to 51% of men after the baby is born. These problems often go unnoticed and untreated because of what society expects of males and the fact that men don’t get regular checkups.

How to Spot the Signs: Signs of Mental Health Problems in Dads During Pregnancy

The first step in getting help is to know what the symptoms are. 
Dads may show:

  • Sadness:
    • Constantly feeling depressed or low
    • Getting angry or irritable
    • Feeling tired or lacking energy
    • Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
    • Having trouble connecting with the baby
    • Feeling worthless or guilty
    • Avoiding family and friends
    • Drinking or using drugs more
  • Feeling anxious:
    • Too much anxiety or dread, frequently regarding the baby’s health or safety
    • Feeling restless or on edge
    • Trouble sleeping
    • Trouble concentrating
    • Physical symptoms include a rapid heartbeat or shortness of breath
    • Staying away from situations connected to the baby or parenting

It’s crucial to remember that these symptoms might change and may even overlap. If you’re having any of these problems, know that you’re not alone and that assistance is available.

How It Affects Families

Mental health problems in fathers that go untreated can have a lot of effects:

  • Child Development: Kids whose dads are depressed or anxious are more likely to have emotional and behavioural difficulties.
  • Relationships with Partners: Poor mental health can make relationships more tense and less satisfying.
  • Overall Family Well-Being: The emotional state of the home might change, which can affect the quality of life for everyone in the family.

Getting Help to Break the Stigma

Societal norms frequently make it hard for males to show weakness, which is why many fathers suffer in quiet. But admitting that you’re having a hard time is a sign of strength, not weakness.

  • Local Support for Tampa Bay Dads
    • Boot Camp for New Dads — A hands-on workshop for expectant fathers to learn from experienced dads. St. Joseph’s Women’s Hospital offers classes in person or virtually, solo just for dad or together with a partner.
    • Tampa Bay Dads Group — Connect with other local dads for playdates, dad nights, or support. Find them on Facebook and email to join the group WhatsApp.
    • Healthy Start Coalition of Hillsborough County — Join the TEAM DAD group for a supportive group to help guide you through the early stages of fatherhood
    • Sleeping Little Angels Doula Services — Our postpartum support includes dads too: newborn care education, sleep help, and partner support to build confidence and connection. Book a free consultation.
  • National Mental Health & Crisis Resources
    • Postpartum Support International (PSI)
      • Call or text the PSI HelpLine at 800-944-4773
      • Download the Connect by PSI app (App Store or Google Play)
      • Join PSI’s Dads Support Group and access more resources just for fathers
      • Learn about International Fathers’ Mental Health Day at postpartum.net/join-us/ifmhd
    • National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
      • Call or text 988 anytime for urgent mental health help.
    • SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)
      • Find help for mental health or substance use concerns at www.samhsa.gov.
    • Maternal Mental Health Leadership Alliance
      • Explore resources dedicated to fathers’ mental wellness at www.mmhla.org.

Moving Forward: A Call to Action

If you’re a new or prospective parent and having trouble with your emotions, you’re not alone. Getting assistance is a brave and important step towards healing for you and your family.

Healthcare professionals, policymakers, and communities must also recognise and treat paternal mental health, ensuring that fathers receive the assistance they need throughout this vital life stage.

Keep in mind that your mental wellness is important.
By admitting that things are hard and asking for help, you’re making a big step towards a healthier, happier family life.

Please use the resources above if you or someone you know is having a hard time coping with the ups and downs of the postpartum period!